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“How
to Develop Self-Confidence
In Speech and Manner” eBook Online Version
Every man should get a right idea of values. There can be no true culture where time and talent are squandered. "Every moment lost," said Napoleon, himself a wonderful example of concentration, "gives an opportunity for misfortune." The building of a self-confident man requires effort, self-sacrifice, and singleness of purpose.
It is not quantity but quality of work that differentiates one man from another. One thing well and thoroughly done is better than any amount of slipshod work. The man who is completely absorbed in the present duty has no time for discontent and discouragement. Time does not hang heavily on his hands, for the clock is not his master.
No one can become deeply interested in work that is distasteful to him. Thousands of men struggle up-stream all their lives because they are in their wrong calling. An anonymous writer well says: "It is a sad parody on life to see a man earning his living by a vocation which has never received his approval. It is pitiable to see a youth, with the image of power and destiny stamped upon him, trying to support himself in a mean, contemptible occupation, which dwarfs his nature, and makes him despise himself; an occupation which is constantly condemning him, ostracizing him from all that is best and truest in life. Dig trenches, shovel coal, carry a rod; do anything rather than sacrifice your self-respect, blunt your sense of right and wrong, and shut yourself off forever from the true joy of living, which comes only from the consciousness of doing one's best."
In order to cultivate concentration a man must bring his will to bear strongly upon his work and life. He should realize that every difficulty yields to this power, and that uninterrupted application to one thing will achieve the seemingly impossible. Mental shiftlessness is powerless in the face of difficulty, but a man of strong will and concentration uses obstacles as stepping-stones to higher things.
Let the student begin to develop his concentration to-day in little things. Let him cultivate the most intense earnestness in whatever he may be doing. Let him say to himself: "This one thing I do and I do it to the very best of my ability. My purpose is sure and steady. My aim is accurate and certain. I hold my thought severely and positively to the work in hand. My endeavor is to do better at each succeeding effort. I take no thought of the morrow, for to-day demands the best that is in me. I move quietly but persistently toward a definite goal. I shall be immensely successful through constant, earnest and sincere application to my work and duty. I grow daily in my power of concentrated effort. I am absorbed in all I do."
Not only in matters of business should a man concentrate, but in his reading and recreation. This great power brings with it many other valuable elements, such as order, punctuality, thoroughness, self-respect, and self-reliance. Through concentration a man may aspire to the highest achievements. By its aid there is practically no limit to ambition.
Buskin says that "men's proper business in this world falls mainly into three divisions: First, to know themselves, and the existing state of the things they have to do with. Secondly, to be happy in themselves, and in the existing state of things. Thirdly, to mend themselves, and the existing state of things, as far as either are marred or mend able."
We hear men constantly deploring the fact that they lack concentration, memory, definiteness, and other qualities of excellence, but who make not the slightest effort to cultivate them. Few persons are born with really great gifts; most of the truly great have achieved greatness. Napoleon ascribed his greatest victories to his ability to concentrate his forces on a single point in the enemy. Gladstone was remarkable for this same power. When the great statesman died, Lord Eosebery said: "My lords, there are two features of Mr. Gladstone's intellect which I can not help noting on this occasion, for they were so signal, so salient, and distinguished him so much from all other minds that I have come in contact with, that it would be wanting to this occasion if they were not noted. The first was his enormous power of concentration! There never was a man, I feel, in this world, who, at any given moment, on any given subject, could so devote every resource and power of his intellect, without the restriction of a single nerve within him, to the immediate purpose of that subject." The story is told of an English statesman whose powers of concentration were so great that after a great debate in Parliament, he hurried from the House bareheaded, passed his coach at the door, and walked all the way home in a pouring rain. In the highest form of public speaking men become so absorbed in their subject that they lose for the time being all consideration and thought of everything else. This power is really indispensable to the highest form of extempore address. The great pulpit orators of the world possessed this faculty in preeminent degree. Whitefield, Mirabeau, Wilberforce, Parker, Spurgeon, Beecher, Phillips Brooks, all were men of tremendous earnestness and concentration. John Bright was so completely absorbed in the subject of a forthcoming speech that he brooded over it day and night, talked it over with his friends, and when no one else was available discussed it with his gardener.
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